Why should I revive my marriage? – Miami Marriage Counselor

• Dr. Elsa Orlandini
• 10 years ago

Why should I revive my marriage?

Is your marriage in jeopardy? Is your marriage unhealthy? Don’t walk away. The consequences are too great. Fight to save your marriage. Fight to revive your marriage. Do all you can to revitalize the promise you made to your partner. Professional counseling is an important step you can take, and here is why.

If you have children, you must strive to revive your marriage. According to David Popenoe, co-director of the National Marriage Project and professor of sociology at Rutgers University, “children from broken homes, compared to children from intact families, have six times the chance to grow up poor. For other youth problems, like delinquency and teen pregnancies, the rates for broken-home children are two to three times what they are for children from intact families.” Crime, poverty, mental health problems, welfare dependency, failed schools, blighted neighborhoods, higher rates of single parenting, and divorce are passed on to the next generation by failed marriages.

Reviving Marriage in America lists the benefits of marriage for adults and the benefits for children.

Benefits of marriage for adults:

• Married women and men have lower mortality rates and tend to have better overall health than single women and men.
• Married couples tend to have more material resources, less stress and better social support that single women and men.
• Married men are less likely to abuse alcohol.
• Married women and men report lower levels of depression and better psychological well-being than single women and men.
• Married men report higher wages than single men and are more likely to be promoted.
• Married women have more economic resources than single women.

Benefits for children:

• Children of married parents are less likely to experience poverty.
• Children of married parents tend to do better in school.
• Children of married parents are less likely to experience emotional-behavioral problems.
• The longer children live in a married family the less likely they are to use drugs.
• Children of married parents are less likely to have children out of wedlock.
• Women of married parents are less likely to experience a high-conflict marriage.
• Single mothers report more conflict with their children than married parents.
• The rate of infant mortality is lower among married parents.
• Children living with their married, biological parents are less likely to experience child abuse.

The battle to save your marriage can only be fought before your divorce is final. After your divorce is final, the battle to save your marriage is over. Choose to fight now, and fight with all the support you can muster. Remember, you will have to look your children and yourself in the eye for the rest of your life. Did you do all you could to save and revive your marriage? If the answer is yes to your children and yes to yourself, then you will rest easy. Get help. Start today.

How can I revive my marriage? What are tips for saving my marriage? Find tips here.